Your father has advanced dementia, and caring for him at home is destroying your partner's mental health. Moving him to a substandard public nursing home will accelerate his decline due to lack of care.

You placed him in the home.

The Devoted Partner — You choose to protect the future of your own household over a bottomless pit of caregiving.

You stayed with him.

The Dutiful Child — You do not abandon the one who gave you life, even if it means ruining your own.